'If not, destroy them'
I want to know what the “mating signal” is.
So I’m a Satanist, then. Good to know.
seasonal fashion according to me
god i hate summer
Shhh My sweet, be patient… you will get everything when the time is right and it is then, at that moment, when it will all have its deepest impact.
I love his dreamy look.
Stevie Nicks (via colestclair)
A girl in my creative writing class said this in response to a story we read about witnessing intimate partner violence and it really fucked with my head because I’ve never, ever, ever, thought of it that way. (via firelorddahlia)
For me, anyway, this is incredibly true, and it’s why I don’t cope with raised voices well. It really upsets me, and I don’t think most men understand that, even if they say they do. I’m not talking about a startle response that gives me a momentary jolt of adrenaline, I’m talking about it triggering a body-wide fight-or-flight response that sometimes leaves me feeling like I’m going to puke. (And it also makes me really, really angry, reflexively, and that’s a really gross combination.)
Recently I read a really excellent post on Fetlife called No is not a safeword – Fuck That that I wanted to expand on. I highly recommend reading that post, but this one should still make sense without it.
People may like to joke around and say that “no” is not a safeword, but it goddamn well is. Unless and until you have specifically negotiated that in a particular scene or a particular…
I wouldn’t feel safe in a scene where “no” or “stop” or “red” or “whoa” or “wait” or “hold on” or any other similar expression were not actual safewords unless I knew the person well and had played with them before and had worked out alternatives beforehand, and I’m a top.
I’m happy to negotiate other ways of handling things, but unless we’ve done some serious talking, I’m going to assume that if they sound like they want me to stop, they want me to stop.
I’d rather “ruin the mood” by checking in than accidentally go too far, and people who don’t think that way flat-out scare me.